Transform your life now by making some specific changes in self-talk and behaviors. You can empower yourself by eliminating certain words from your vocabulary and adding more positive words. You can also eliminate certain behaviors.
Let’s start with what you tell yourself. Use words and phrases that motivate like “I can do this,” “I’m getting stronger every day,” “I’m setting goals for this week and then I’ll take steps every day to reach my goal.”
As I said in my latest book, Think Your Way to Happiness, you get quick results by what you don’t say. Eliminate descriptors like “I’m so dumb,” “I’m an idiot,” “I’m crazy,” “I can’t do it.” Encourage yourself like you would encourage a friend.
Choose your words carefully. Don”t use words like “hate,” or “stupid,” especially when referring to yourself. Actually, eliminate “hate” from your vocabulary altogether.
Don’t do guilt. If you live long enough, you have regrets. Regret is okay, but don’t dwell on regrets. Guilt, like hate, can control you. It can take away your power and weigh you down. Brush yourself off when you’re headed down the road to negativity, and get yourself back on the road to positivity. I’ll bet you’ve had some days that were full of up’s and down’s. I just had a week like that. You feel as if you are being tested. When you are challenged, put your new skills to work. Don’t get bogged down in gloomy or negative thoughts. Instead, practice your positive self-talk like “I can handle this.”
I just saw an extraordinary young male athlete with Down Syndrome on the news. He had accomplished athletic feats that most people with no physical challenges don’t accomplish. He said he lives by three rules: (1) Be 1% better every day. (2) Do my best. (3) Don’t give up.
Wow! I was impressed. He thinks positive thoughts. He meets challenges with an “I can do it” attitude. Instead of dwelling on how hard the challenge is, he focuses on getting to the finish line. I’m sure he uses positive self-talk and he spends most of his energy in the present moment, not in the past. He takes risks. He doesn’t give up. He demands the best from himself.
You can turn pessimism into optimism right now. Right this moment. You are a winner, too. You can make a difference. Go for it!