Thinking and talking positively sure adds to your happiness! Instead of thinking negatively and critically, put a positive spin on your thoughts. Most of us tend to be self-critical. We can find all kinds of faults with how we look, for example.
At a Weight Watchers meeting last week, we were challenged to change our perspective on our bodies, so that we can love them and feel self-confident in the present moment. Instead of describing a body part by HOW IT LOOKS, we were encouraged to think about that body part by WHAT IT DOES. Our arms have important functions, like lifting, carrying, and hugging, whether they are toned or not. When you focus on the function, you see yourself in a more positive light. Legs gets us around from one place to another, whether they are as toned as a model’s or not.
That was an eye-opener for me, and I hope that taking a different perspective helps you, too. In the body image department, I am now setting goals for being stronger, so that I can continue to carry gallons of milk and pull weeks in my garden. I am concentrating on the function, not on the visuals.
Amazing, isn’t it, how just changing how you look at something can completely change your feelings and your goals. In my book, Think Your Way to Happiness, I suggested that you eliminate the word “hate” from your self-talk and your thoughts about others. Hatred is an intense feeling and it can take up a lot of room in your brain. It’s better to use a term like, “It would be better if…” when referring to yourself. Back to the body part talk, instead of saying, “I hate the way my arms look,” you can substitute, “It would be better if my arms were toned and I looked great in sleeveless blouses, but they sure lifted that bag of potting soil into the car.”
After working with clients in therapy for a short while, I would check in with them on their thoughts and dreams. Many would have dreams of cleaning out their attic. They would sweep, sweep, sweep away anything that was not helpful. It seemed to me that they were getting rid of negative thoughts and feelings and clearing space for new ways of thinking positively.
Out with the old and in with the new. That can pertain to how we look at things, too.