The theme for today’s blog is LETTING GO. This week, I was fascinated to see that don Miguel Ruiz’s 1997 book, The Four Agreements: A Toltec Wisdom Book, is currently listed as one of the top five best-selling non-fiction books. The simple and profound wisdom, encapsulated into 4 lessons, is still as relevant today as it was over 20 years ago.
The second of Ruiz’s 4 agreements, Don’t Take Anything Personally, parallels the first strategy in my 2021 book, Think Your Way to Happiness: Strategies for an Enjoyable, Meaningful Life. Chapter 1 in my book is titled, What Can You Control? The answer to the question is “You can only control yourself.” (p. 3). My point is that our lives would be so much happier if we would LET GO of other people’s negative remarks and actions.
In my book, I have a question and an answer– “Why is this so important? Because you spend so much time trying to control something that you cannot control. We use up vital energy and we create negative, self-defeating thoughts, which leads to unhappiness.” (p. 3)
There was an old saying that if someone is pointing a finger at you, they are pointing 3 fingers back at themselves. What it means is that someone’s negative comment toward you is really a comment on themselves. If you allow what they say to “hurt you” or “ruin your day,” you are playing victim and giving them power over your feelings. You create your own feelings. You are in control of what you think about and how you think about it. The goal is to be create positive, goal-oriented, constructive thoughts and feelings.
Question: What stressors could you eliminate by focusing on what you can control?
Recommendations– If you live in the Gainesville, Georgia, area, check out an inspirational gift shop, Enemies of the Average, located at 114 Washington St. just off the Gainesville square. The owner, Ginny Early, is a creative spirit who provides “floral experiences to feed your soul.”
Also, be on the lookout for the next appearance of the pop-up coffee shop, Meadowlark Coffee, featuring JP McKenzie’s masterfully crafted coffees. If you want to check his schedule, email JP at email@example.com. His mission is to “build community.”
If you don’t live in or near Gainesville, seek out inspiration by visiting a cool shop and pop-up coffee bar near you.